There’s a song that echoes through the halls of mind constantly, and especially repeating itself in the last few days. I know many of the old-schoolers will know it… it begins “I’d rather have Jesus, than silver or gold, I’d rather be His than have riches untold; I’d rather have Jesus than houses or lands; I’d rather be led by His nail-pierced hand.”

I believe there is a realization that comes when you are taking strides in beginning your life with someone else, as I am sure some married couples can help me out on this. A lot of times we tend to look at the here and now, and at the arguments, the stresses, and the complications of getting your life started with someone, and just simply the pains of kicking things off on the right foot. We often overlook how the other person has grown since the start of the relationship, and we always overlook how we have grown since the beginning as well. You may not see the consequences of overlooking this immediately, but I assure you they are there. We forget the fact that everything we do is part of a growing process, and the contact we have outside of ourselves greatly impacts who we are now, and who we are to become.

By now you are wondering why I started off with the old chorus “I’d Rather Have Jesus.” The simple fact is that we focus so much on battling the adversary, that we overlook ourselves being one of the greatest hindrances.

“Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak”- Matthew 26:41

When we rely on what feels right, or what our mind is telling us to do, we willend up having regrets. However, if we rely on the Spirit of God to lead us, then the understanding will come in the midst of the answer. Often times we are placed in situations where we have two options, what we feel we should do, and what we know we should do. Now here is where the rubber meets the road. What if we shut off the idea of doing what we feel like we should do, and actually searched the Spirit for wisdom and understanding? A lot of the messes we get ourselves into would most certainly be avoided.

How does this reflect on a relationship level?

God should not be a mere part of your relationship with someone else. God should be the focal point of the relationship. We WILL be faced with hard decisions as a couple, and now we are not having a problem with one flesh, but with a whole other flesh as well. You and your other half should both be seeking out the wisdom of God and the answer to the problem. Here is the kicker though… SUBMISSION, the “dirty word” that men and women never want to hear.

Ladies, if your man is in the will of God, which you should be able to tell, then who are you to disregard the input that the Spirit of God gives him? Gentlemen, make sure you shut your flesh off when you go to prayer about a situation concerning you and your other half. In fact, you should be in your prayer closet where you can be alone with God. Start with repentance, not “I’m sorry”… repenting means to “change ones mind”. After this then move on to prayer for understanding, God will answer, the problem is if God doesn’t tell us what we WANT to hear.

Here is the point, and forgive but I am getting a little old-school with it… and it is not just for you, but to myself also.

Shut up and let God speak, stay quiet and let God finish, take action and do the work, breathe and let God give you peace.

QUIT STRESSING!!! God has a reason and an answer for everything, where is your faith if you let every situation throw you into a frenzy. Find your rest, and your peace in God, He has always and will always be there.

“I’d rather have Jesus than men’s applause; I’d rather be faithful to His dear cause; I’d rather have Jesus than worldwide fame; I’d rather be true to His holy name“

In Christ,

Aaron Dowen